1. Jot down 10 things that matter most to you. This can range from food, people, animals, hobbies and the like. These should be the first ideas that come to mind.

2. Research shows it takes approximately 21 days to build a new habit. Go ahead and make a blank calendar for 30 days to allow for some wiggle room.

3. Starting with day 1 on the calendar, list your first top 10 item, then on day two, the second one, and so on. Keep repeating all your items until each calendar day has an item assigned.

4. Pick a date to start the process (preferably the first of a month is ideal, but you can still begin mid-month). The key is following the routine diligently for 30 days.

5. Each day, visit your calendar, read the item listed and do something kind for the person or thing. For example, if one of your top items is your spouse, do something kind for that person. If one of your items is chocolate cake, bake the dessert for someone to brighten their day.

6. At the end of the 30-day period, you will have not only created a routine of giving and considering others, but you will be inspired to make this an ongoing lifestyle choice. The calendar checklist will force you to check in with your attitude on a daily basis, but most importantly, it will show you who and what it is in life that defines you.